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Accidental Healing: How Pursuit of a Passion Brought Peace to My Past

Accidental Healing: How Pursuit of my Passion Brought Peace to My PastHere’s a lesson I wish I’d known 20 years ago: Follow your heart, do the work, keep your ears, eyes and heart open, and not only will you progress toward your ultimate goals, you’ll stumble upon some people and positive experiences you could not have foreseen when you started out.

Accidental healing.

For me, the passion project was finally beginning a podcast around this time a year ago as part of a larger effort to create and grow a thriving speaking career. For at least a couple of years prior to that, I allowed myself to listen to excuses of why I couldn’t, or shouldn’t, try creating a show of my own. Eventually, I became fed up of sitting on the sidelines while life ticked away, and I clumsily got myself into the game. I am so glad I did, and I’d like to share the story in hopes that it be of help to you in some similar way.

What’s Coming Up:

  • How the effort of the pursuing a current passion project (The No Schedule Man Podcast) attracted some great people in my path
  • Why I left the radio business for the racing business
  • How I got involved in the racing business to being with
  • Why I’ve had unpleasant emotional associations connected to motorsports
  • How pursuit of my true passion(s) put me back in touch with the best parts of that part of my life

Connecting With Great People:

Earlier this week, I posed the 30th episode of the No Schedule Man Podcast, which features Bob Parker, the mastermind behind the experiential learning program called “Pit Crew Challenge.” Visiting with Bob brought back a lot of good feelings about my time in the motorsports industry, feelings that I had not experienced in a long time. I’ll give more context to that thought in a moment, as finding Bob in the first place was an illuminating part of this lesson.

No Schedule Man Episode 22: Gair MaxwellThrough the course of producing the podcast and connecting with people that I feel could contribute to the show, I came across Gair Maxwell in the fall of 2016 (you can hear him talking about Reinvention and Possibility in Episode 22 by clicking here). As I actively pursue my long-held interest in a thriving speaking career, the connection with Gair was a welcome revelation. He quickly invited me to join him as his guest at the next meeting of the Canadian Association for Professional Speakers. I gratefully accepted, and was absolutely delighted when I entered the room to see a couple people that I already knew, including Bob. Getting reintroduced to Bob in that setting felt like coming to an emotional bridge from an earlier part of my career to the present and future. A real gift. I have Gair to thank for my connection to Bob, and my podcast to thank for the connection to Gair.

See how this works?

When you focus constantly on a clear picture of what you want to accomplish, and move toward it confidently, the unseen forces will rally to your support.

– Price Pritchett, You2

I first met Bob in my time in the motorsports industry when I was the Announcer, and later Sales and Marketing Director, and eventually the General Manager, at a stock car track called Delaware Speedway. During that time, one of my good friends, a top competitor and driver named Ron Sheridan, would sometimes tell me about the experiences he was having hauling his race car all over North America to teach business people about culture and teamwork. A gregarious, outgoing and hard-working guy, Ron and his team were (and still are) responsible for transporting the actual car to the event and working people through the hands-on part of it. The rest of the program was (is) facilitated by a guy named … Bob Parker.

From Radio to Racing

Kevin Bulmer with Johnny Rocca at Grand Bend Motorplex

Interviewing Johnny Rocca, a larger than life personality, in a live broadcast at the Grand Bend Motorplex. This would have been around 1999 or so.

Racing was what initially brought me away from radio. In the beginning stages of my broadcasting career, I was looking for any extra chance to get on the air that I could find, so when an opportunity arose to co-create, co-produce, sell and host a weekly talk show about motorsports, I jumped on it even though I really didn’t know much about racing. My show partner, Mike Kilbreath, and I called that show “The Pit Crew” and it went on the air with sponsorship space sold out  before the first episode. It stayed that way for four or five years and I remain as proud of that as just about anything else I’ve ever done. It was challenging and fun and I remember at that time thinking that being involved in motorsports would always be fun.

(Sidenote: I really hope I can match up with Mike Kilbreath for a podcast episode at some point. I’ve reached out. We just haven’t matched up yet. Fingers crossed)

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Through the course of hosting that show, we naturally got to know all kinds of people in the racing industry. That led to being hired as one of the track announcers at Delaware Speedway (a half-mile stock car track in Southwestern Ontario), and I was later tapped as the lead voice at events for what was then called the CASCAR Super Series, which saw me announce at a variety of facilities throughout the province of Ontario back in 2001. Eventually, I left my post as the morning show host at CHOK Radio in Sarnia, Ontario to become the full-time Sales and Marketing Director, Announcer and Community Relations mManager at Delaware Speedway.

Creativity & Resourcefulness Have Always Captured My Attention

My first trackside announcing at Delaware Speedway in September of 1998

Trackside at the first race I ever announced at Delaware Speedway, in September of 1998

That was a fun time in my life. I marveled at the creativity, resourcefulness and determination of the race teams. I became fascinated with the different strategies that could be employed over the course of a long race, and how a whole host of little things all added up once the car was actually on the track. I admired the work ethic, passion and determination of these race teams. I still do. However, once I was made General Manager late in 2004, my pysche began to turn a little bit darker.

Looking back, I can see now that I very much enjoyed the creative aspects of bringing businesses into the racing program to create new and different events, sponsorships and promotions. I was proud to represent both the track and the race teams and I worked at it tirelessly. I enjoyed being the conduit between the people running the facility, the different racing series, sanctioning bodies and the people putting the cars (and sometimes trucks) on the track. I felt as though it was part of my job to get along with everyone, and that suited my personality nicely. But once I accepted the GM’s role, I quickly felt the burden of responsibility and realized that my natural tendency to try to please everyone was going to be my undoing. I was too young and inexperienced to know how to handle that then and I was harder on myself than just about anyone else was at the time. And I was very hard on myself.

The Turning Tide: Trying to Swim Against the Undertow

StressWork went from fun to fraught with anxiety. It felt as if my days were spent trying to win an impossible game of Whack-a-Mole or to patch a leaking bucket that was springing holes from all sides while simultaneously rusting up from the bottom .

Not coincidentally, that was the time in my life when things begin to get very difficult and strained in my marriage and my physical and mental health began to deteriorate. I didn’t realize it while I was going through it, but it seems completely obvious to me now.

Without the emotional maturity and mental tools to know how to deal with it all, I blamed the race track and the racing industry, at least in part. And as the last many years have progressed, that period from late 2004 through to about 2009 or 2010 looms like a big, fat, emotional black hole that I have been trying not to revisit. What a shame.

If you have a health problem, it came from physiological stress – all health problems, every time.

– Dr. Alexander Lloyd, The Healing Code

Since then, I’ve worked hard at understanding how and why I wandered so far from my real essence. That led me to starting the podcast, and working at it as a part of pursuing something that resonates deeply with my heart and soul has benefited me in a number of ways that I in no way saw coming when I started out. One of them has been a sort of accidental healing, finding a sense of peace over the period of time I just described. Through a combination of experiences, that spirit of fun has flickered back to life. I’m beginning to remember what it initially felt like to get involved in something I’d once found so enriching. Many of those light bulbs popped back on during the conversation with Bob Parker.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

No Schedule Man Podcast Episode 30 - Bob ParkerI frankly had forgotten about how much I admired so many of my friends that operated race teams. The trade-off to their passion and emotion is that it can sometimes turn against you when you are the one calling the shots. I didn’t like the role of Governor or Referee. I like being a Coach and a Creator. And it’s true that whatever you focus your attention to does seem to grow. For the better part of a decade, I had let my attention be drawn to the darker, more stressful times that I had in that industry, and in the rest of my life. However the fun times were just as real. It’s time that I begin to give them the attention and celebration that they deserve and I’d like to sincerely thank Bob for helping to remind me of that.

This seems obvious to me now, as it plays right into the hands of a theme I’ve shared about changing habits, and that’s focusing on moving toward what you do want rather than putting more attention to what you don’t want (here’s an example, in a 2016 video blog). Little could I have known that by putting so much more of my energy into where I wanted to go and who I wanted to be would provide such a valuable perspective on where I’ve been and the various things that have contributed to making me who I am. It’s an undeniable benefit from employing the Law of Attraction and taking action in pursuit of your real passions.

Accidental Healing.

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Comments: How Are You Moving Forward?

Where are you focusing your energy? In what direction is your life headed, and what is it that may be holding you back? Do you have an example of how a difficult part of your past was healed – or at least helped – by pursuing something more true to who you are? Please feel welcome to share in the comment section, below.

14 Responses to “Accidental Healing: How Pursuit of a Passion Brought Peace to My Past

  • Hi Kevin,
    Thanks for sharing your story. It was really interesting to read about your trials and tribulations and how you found peace after all this time and rekindled your positive feelings towards past events. It’s always fascinating to hear other peoples’ law of attraction stories. I’m a firm believer in this. Energy flows where attention goes. It’s not always easy to remember to keep that positivity and that you create your reality. But it’s true and we could all do to remember it.
    Great post, I feel like I know you!
    Briana

    • Hi Briana,
      Thanks for those kind and encouraging thoughts! I’m glad you took something from it, and I appreciate you saying you feel like you know me. I’d like for that to be the case and have set an intention to try and be more myself and really express my own voice going forward. It’s getting there.
      Thanks for visiting.
      Best wishes,
      Kevin

  • matts mom
    4 years ago

    You know this is a really great post! So much positive information and I love, love your positive outlook on life. I have to agree with a lot of things you say. For me the pursuit of passion is something I embrace wholeheartedly and it does bring peace, you are so right!

    • That’s kind of you to say. Thanks!
      Best wishes,
      Kevin

  • A lot of us listen to what other people say and let it drown out our own thoughts and aspirations. Listening to our hearts desire is truly rewarding. I’m glad you took that first step and I hope you continue to inspire others to do the same.

    • Hi Devin,
      That’s well said. Thank you for visiting and sharing those thoughts. I enthusiastically echo everything you just shared.
      Best wishes,
      Kevin

  • Hey Kevin,

    This was a great read. I’m glad I read your story. It is very inspiring to me and probably an affirmation that I needed to hear right now. Procrastination and self doubt gets in my way at times.

    It’s so true that you have to focus on what you want and not dwell on the things you don’t want. So very true indeed.

    All the best!

    • Hi Jeff!
      Thanks for that. You’re right: it’s easy to fall back into procrastination and self doubt. Awareness of it alone is a great first step.
      I appreciate you visiting and leaving a comment. Thank you!
      Best wishes,
      Kevin

  • Hello Kevin,

    First I must say a very professional looking website. I landed on the page and I thought wow! But then you are a professional!
    A great story of recovery Kevin, and now you are looking and moving forward following your passion.

    Following your passion and your heart to an uninformed observer may look foolish and even reckless, but it is the only thing that will bring fulfillment to the follower’s life. You unknowingly moved from it from a time but the knowledge and wisdom you can now impart to others is valueless both to you and to those you impact in your speaking (podcast) and here on your website.

    I too am on a journey of discovery, following my heart. Just doing what I am doing now is a part of that journey. My ‘comfort’ zone was not that comfortable after all and so I have made the shift. It is drastic and not always understood, but deep down it feels right to me.

    Thanks for sharing Kevin, may you inspire many to make the right move for themselves. Much success to you.

    • Hi EJ,
      Thank you for those very kind and encouraging words. I’m very grateful. That’s nice to hear and thank you for sharing your thoughts
      I LOVE what you said here: “My ‘comfort’ zone was not that comfortable.” That’s a GREAT way to put it, and something that I think a lot of us fail to recognize until after something major has affected us.
      Wishing you health, happiness and success as well. Thanks again for stopping by.
      Kevin

  • Great post Kevin and great questions you ask at the end of the article. My energy is just focused on enjoying retirement, getting in shape and building my online presence through blogging. You have a truly inspiring story to tell and congratulations on your podcasts. This is something I may get into further on down the road.
    Before I try that I want to start posting video content to my site. That’s going to be my focus going forward. I’m still in the learning to relax and smell the roses stage of life. Great post, thanks for this.
    Peace!
    Peter

    • Hi Peter,
      Thanks for the visit and the note. I think you’re doing a terrific job with your site and I’m glad that you’re smelling the roses and thinking creatively at the same time. Perfect!
      I’m very grateful for your encouragement. Thank you. I wish great success for you as well!
      All the best,
      Kevin

  • Hi Kevin! What a great post! It’s very inspiring I love how you have grown so much and started building your own success. I would also reccommend checking out operation self reset podcast. Jake the speaker in the podcast may be a good mentor for you as he is trying to accomplish similar things and he is newish to the scene. Good Luck!

    • Hi Hailey,
      Thanks for that! I appreciate you mentioning Jake’s podcast. I’ll give it a look & listen. Thanks!
      Best wishes,
      Kevin

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