Podcast episode on how to keep calm
Life happens, every single day and to each and every one of us. And so it seems rather amazing that, given our collective experience, we would not yet have fully figured out how to stop making things so incredibly difficult for ourselves sometimes. Too often, we give fuel to further chaos by how we choose to react to the inevitable in the present. And so, many of us wonder how to keep calm.
Subscribe to the podcast:
Listen: Apple Podcasts (iTunes) | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher
Through the course of a lifetime we are going to be faced with countless interruptions, disappointments and calamities that we would just as soon avoid or not have to deal with it all. But they happen, and for the most part, they are well beyond our control. So how do you navigate through those times without a complete disruption of your emotional equilibrium?
Awareness is a great first step. From there, there are some things that you can do and some tips and strategies that you can employ, to keep yourself calm and smooth the waters in both a present interruption and for encouraging calm seas ahead.
How To Keep Calm
In this podcast, I share some practical tips on how to keep calm, like the art of responding vs. reacting, the difference between the two and why it’s so important. I quickly explore meditation and how that helps, go over the “10-10-10 rule” and a few other things.
I also share a story from my Delaware Speedway management days as an example of how today’s chaos can become tomorrow’s stories. The particular incident I described would be beyond my imagination to make up. But it’s a true story. Give it a listen, have a laugh at my expense and see it as proof that time does pass on, and that things that seem like a big deal right now will either fade or become fodder for discussion and, yes, entertainment.
Subscribe to “Journeys with the No Schedule Man”
You can find those and all archived episodes at NoScheduleManPodcast.com or at: Apple Podcasts (iTunes) | Google Podcasts | iHeart Radio | Spotify | Stitcher
Stay In Touch:
Subscribe here to get Kevin’s free inspirational email updates.
After you confirm your subscription, you’ll immediately receive an email with a free 10-page PDF on Kevin’s “4 Keys To Contentment.”
Kevin Bulmer is a Strategic Marketing and Mindset Coach and Keynote Speaker and founder of No Schedule Man Brand Media. He is the producer and host of the momondays London inspirational event series, strategic marketing coach for Awesomepreneurs and host of the podcast, “Journeys with the No Schedule Man.”
Day-to-day, Kevin helps heart-centered entrepreneurs find their “REAL” success so they can feel free to live and work happy. His overarching purpose is to uplift through a shared example of continual growth.
For life coaching online and ongoing strategic marketing coaching & support, join Kevin’s online coaching membership service, My REAL Success Pass. To work with Kevin directly, apply for 1-on-1 coaching, hire him to speak (virtually or in person) for your group and/or book a private workshop or group coaching session.
Hi Kevin! Thank you for this article. It is soo great. It really helps to calm down. I love the 10-10-10 rule.
These powerful lessons would actually everybody need. This type of life we are living nowadays is not really healthy.
Best wishes
Andrew
Thanks for your time and your comments, Andrew. I’m grateful.
Wishing you the best,
Kevin
Hey Kevin!
Thanks for the awesome post and podcast. You share some great information that many people really should know.
I see too many people that “react” instead of “respond”. I used to be one of those people, but I have been learning ways to improve and keep my cool. Your information definitely has taught me some new approaches I can take.
I will be sharing this post with some people who I feel can really learn from you.
Thanks so much for sharing this information, I will stay in touch!
Chris
Thank you, Chris. I appreciate your kind and encouraging remarks.
I’m the same as you: a former serial reactor turn responder …most of the time. We’re all working on it in our own way.
Wishing you well!
Kevin
Hi Kevin,
Very interesting post! I think it is very true of many of us being a reactor instead of a responder, I will be certainly looking at my own reactions from now on and turn them to a response.
Thanks Craig!
Wishing you well,
KB
I can attest to the reaction versus response bit. I applied “response” quite recently, as a matter of fact lol Definitely had an unforeseen circumstance. Although I reacted first, almost reflexively, I set to work to pursue something—ANYTHING I could do about the problem I was facing. It’s easy, when reacting to life happening, to let fear determine my decisions; which becomes anger. That unique kind of “just plain mad” when the thought of “Why of all times does this HAVE to happen NOW?! I’m not ready. I’m unprepared. I can’t compensate.” occurs. “Can’t” with that capital “C”.
But! The problem was “addressable”. Coming to terms with all my problems sometimes NOT being solved and thus winning the battles I DO have some control over, makes a big difference in my mood. I’ve built proactive habits because of it. Maintaining a healthy mindset has become such a huge part of my life, that I cannot imagine the person I’d be without doing so.
Hi Dawn,
That’s very well said. Thanks for sharing! You’ve outlined well how things can so quickly spin away from us, and compound the stress. I’m like you: investing in a healthy, positive mindset as much as possible. And even that I have to sometimes back away from, just to give life some breath and just “be.” I can truly relate to your thought of wanting to do something – anything – to help resolve discomfort. Sometimes, the only thing to do is be with it and allow it to sort itself out.
Thanks for your time and thoughtful comments.
All the best,
Kevin
Hi Kevin,
Loved your podcast! I too often react to situations instead of responding. I wish I could take a moment sometimes before I react but I hope I am getting better at controlling my feelings. I know our feelings are controlled by no one but ourselves. I had learned that people are the ones giving significance to situations and not the situation itself. Therefore, we can control how we perceive the situation and if we take a step back, we can see the situation as it is rather than having it wrapped up in your emotions.
I definitely still have ways to practice how to respond calmly, but the more I get older, the more I see this is very controllable.
Thanks for another great podcast!
Grace
Hi Grace,
Thanks for your kind remarks. Wishing you well!
Kevin
Will listen to the podcast at some point.
What keeps me calm is simply thinking positive thoughts and practising ELP or tapping.
Thanks Josh. I’ve heard about tapping. Never tried it. I hope it’s working for you!
Kevin